This whole mental and emotional fiasco that I have been dealing with for the past couple of weeks has already reached its limits due to the lack of communication and now I don’t know how to fix this.
I need someone to help me with this.
Importance Of Communication
I am so goddamn frustrated about everything, and all I can blame for this messed-up situation is no other than my husband. Our whole situation is uncontrollable, commutation is terrible, no intimacy, and still, he doesn’t seem to care. What can I do to communicate with him my concerns? I need help to communicate with him right now!
Poor communication skills is one of the main reasons relationship fails.
That is the thing; nothing happened. It was all of a sudden that my partner began to lose all interest in talking. It is as if he entirely never wanted to communicate about everything in his life and that he required nobody to communicate around him anymore. It was all confusing because he was the type of person who would often talk about his problems whenever he felt the need for discussion. My husband has always prioritized talking his thoughts and feelings ever since. Therefore, it was such a big surprise for me that he seemed so aloof, the ineffective communication, and detached nowadays.
Lack of good communication ruins a relationship.
At first, I thought that maybe he just wanted to have some space, no communication, to have some alone time. I was considerate to give my partner all the time, lacking communication, and space he needed because that is what I thought healthy at some amount. But unfortunately, I never realized that the more I allowed my husband to be alone and not talk, the more I gave him the right to isolate himself. So now I was wondering, was it my entire fault that he turned out to be so distant and not communicating to everyone, including me?
Lack of communication can ruin a relationship.
Communication Struggle I Currently Deal With Due To Lack
Apparently, there are instances that I can pretty much say I connect with my husband, especially when we are communicating about our children’s needs. But when we try and communicate about current thoughts and feelings for only the two of us, he would immediately shrug off some of my concerned questions and end the communication. Sadly, my husband’s actions made me think that perhaps I did something wrong that made him treat me indifferently to the point of no communication at all. That is why he often communicated to me negatively. It hurts a lot when he communicates like that because I was not used to his antics like that. I wished I knew what was going on.
Lack of communication keeps a couple emotionally apart.
Unfortunately, the heartaches and confusion didn’t end there. In fact, ever since my husband began slowly moving away, not communicating with me, I developed these mental illnesses that I never knew I could have. I struggled with severe anxiety and depression because I overthink a lot. I became so frustrated and worried about things that seemed too impossible to happen. I was on the brink of a mental breakdown just because lack of understanding of what was going on in my husband’s head.
Things I Learned To Ignore
Lack of communication is a sign of lack of affection.
At times, the things between my husband and me are tolerable. There are instances when we smiled at each other and communicated a few things about the future. But then again, when the topic turned around and start to communicate a series of questions regarding our married life, my husband would immediately shut down, stop communicating whatever it is that connected to the subject. I told myself that I should get used to that type of communication because it was probably nothing to worry about. Thus, I learned to ignore those particular communication scenarios. Unfortunately, that was a mistake.
Lack of communication can cause a lack of intimacy.
The Real Problem Revealed
It was almost past midnight, and I was preparing myself to go to bed. My husband was already lying down, so I thought he was asleep. But right after I got into the bed, he woke up and communicated straightly that we need to talk. My heart was racing that time, and I felt so nervous. I was not expecting to see his reaction with a serious facial expression.
I calmed myself and asked him, “okay” what was it all about? Then he said, “I want a divorce,” and that hit me. It all made sense.
Lack of communication is the beginning of growing apart.
I replied by saying “okay” and lay down to bed. I was so certain that my partner was confused about my reaction and how I didn’t effectively communicate or tried to turn things around so we could have healthy relationships, but I didn’t care.
Because honestly, I knew it would come to that part where one of us would break the bad news sooner or later since we couldn’t communicate effectively or at least be on the same page. I didn’t expect the whole situation to be more stress relieving than resolving workplace conflict, understanding company culture or poor workplace communication, or boosting people’s low morale.
Final Thoughts On Communication
I lacked communication with my husband to ask for his reason for wanting a divorce because I find it unnecessary. His lack of actions and poor body language said it all, so there is nothing I would want to hear anymore. It is funny, though, that I didn’t feel that much emotional pain after hearing those words he communicated. I guess I managed to endure so much mental torture that the results came out normal as I expected they would due to the cold treatment. But I believed I still need to seek professional help because I want to understand my emotions or lack thereof and learn how to practice active listening and improve my emotional management skills. I also want to deal with inadequate communication problems that I might have and affect all effective communication styles in my life (i.e., workplace communication, written communication, team communication, and other internal communications.