There will always be a conflict between each member of the family. Unfortunately, if this is not appropriately handled, communication might be broken, and the relationship would be stunted. Time might come that a brother will avoid his father, or a sister will not talk with her sister. Things at home will be difficult emotionally because not speaking with your loved one is excruciating.
What can you do when conflict within the family shuts down communication?
Never Give Up
“Awareness is the beginning of all change.” As Karla Helbert, LPC, E-RYT, C-IAYT used to say. Therefore, continue to speak with your sister, brother, or parent. Never give up until you find out the problem, and when you do, find a way to fix it.
Reinforcements And Pride Down
Don’t get tired of your loved one and keep on repeating that you love them so much. Say and show that you care for them. This can initiate the breaking of barriers.
Be Understanding And Learn To Accept
Understand your loved one’s decision even if there are disagreements. Remember that you two are different people with different views. You won’t always have the same feelings or thoughts. Just accept it. “Learn how to stand up for yourself with compassion for others, deal with stress better, improve your mood, and learn to like yourself.” April Lau, LMHC suggests.
Make A Connection
Don’t ever cut your connection with your parent or sibling. Approach them by all means necessary. You will lose nothing by making the first move to reconcile. Remeber, “The strength of forgiveness has been shown to have a powerful buffering effect on stress. Those who are highly forgiving of themselves and others have a far less chance of having a mental illness.” Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. said.
Formulate Communication Strategies
If your approach is not working, then maybe it is time to think of a different strategy to fix the issues. Use your sibling or parent’s weakness to charm them.
Be A Light At The End Of The Tunnel
You have to encourage your loved one and make them feel that there is no way for family members to stay angry at each other for a long time.
Talking About Mental Health – Parent To Child
Mental health is rarely being discussed within the family. Unfortunately, it does not get the proper attention that it should because of the stigma. Another reason is that when you see your children looking anxious or in a state of depression, there are times that you do not want to talk to them. You are afraid to trigger their mental health issue. This is very dangerous as they could have suicidal thoughts or induce self-harm.
Starting a conversation is the best way to deal with your teen. Even if you aren’t sure about what to say, you must show your son or daughter that you care for them. When you give your children your time and demonstrate an understanding of what he or she is going through, everything might change.
Tips For Getting Started
Start a conversation that allows your teen to open up by using questions like, “I’m worried about you, can we talk?” or “Something is different about you. Can you share it with me?” Once they’ve open up, you should show that you care for your teen by actively listening to everything that he or she says.
Acknowledge the struggle that your kids are going through, then do your best to let them feel that you are standing with them in the battle. Don’t push them if they don’t want to talk. You could leave notes or messages of encouragement if face to face talk is steep, at the moment.
When your kids are suffering from anxiety and depression, everything would seem dark for them. It is like walking in a dark tunnel that doesn’t have any light on for guidance. That is why, all of what they see in their past, present or future are hopeless. Again, encouragement is the best thing that you could do at this time. Let them feel that everything will be fine, and try to guide them by making small steps, until they can cope and manage on their own.
Seeking Expert Support
Inform your children who are suffering from mental health concerns that there are medical experts who can help them with their issues. You can start by going with your teen to see a psychiatrist. With this, you can also learn how to deal with your son or daughter. Consistently check on their condition and always tell them how much you love them.